Same Experiences — Different Effects

At this point in our journey, you’re most likely beginning to make significant connections between the experiences of your childhood and the intra- or inter-personal battles of your adult life.  To clearly and uniquely consider the solutions we’ll be discussing in detail later in this book, there is one last foundational block that must be […]

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Erosion Of Godly Foundations

In light of the foreboding cultural climate of the early 20th century that we’ve explored, we can’t help but consider factors that may have contributed to the nature of the world we live in today.  Natural characteristics such as creativity and vision were subdued by forced compliance.  Respect turned into fear.  Work ethic became drivenness.  […]

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Emotional Trauma And The American Family

A landmark article by the US Department of Veterans Affairs National Center for PTSD explains how the emotional trauma World War II imposed on American men profoundly changed how they functioned as men, husbands, fathers, and citizens. “PTSD can make somebody hard to be with.  Living with someone who is easily startled, has nightmares, and […]

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PTSD Led To Multi-Generational Shame

Prior to the 20th century, adults demanded strict adherence to a very stringent code of behavior and conduct – privately and publicly – for both themselves and their children.  Despite many of their techniques appearing harsh and primitive by today’s standards, history appears to show that the effects of these methods were not as emotionally […]

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Shame-Based Discipline

As far back as the Mayflower Pilgrims landing on Plymouth Rock in 1620, woven into America’s DNA has been the cultural norm of utilizing shaming as a means of discipline, particularly in the disciple of children.  A methodology we in the 21st century have come to perceive as detrimental is what our predecessors considered to […]

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Acting Out Our Shame

The Bible tells us that each of us is made by God as a composite of three distinct components: “Now may the God of peace make you holy in every way and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless until our Lord Jesus Christ comes again.” (1 Thessalonians 5:23 NLT) In […]

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Does Toxic Shame Have An Opposite?

Common sense might say that if we just do the opposite of the shaming we witnessed in childhood it will produce a healthy life, marriage, children, and family.  The flaw in this reasoning is that, without of a person’s heart being regenerated through Christ, the opposite of shame-based is not self-worth, but rather pretentiousness (covering […]

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