Through acts of violation committed against us. We experience shame when people sin against us. Through violations, abuse, molestation, or shameful words, shame is placed on us and cuts to the very core of our self-worth. Abuse occurs when someone enters an area of our lives without permission in a way that violates or hurts […]
We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others. We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ. In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important […]
We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others. We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ. In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important […]
Introduction God is in the business of making broken things whole. It is through the life of His spirit that we are brought back to wholeness. Nothing that has occurred in our past is allowed to have sovereign reign in our life when we summon the God of the universe for assistance. Those parts of […]
Soul Wounds Will Become Scars Parenting is hard work. If you’re a parent, you already know that. And sometimes parents get things wrong. Even very wrong. If we can recognize our father and mother for who they are, and not dwell on who we’d like them to be (past or present), we can move toward […]
Healing from our parent woundedness is a balance between acknowledging our negative feelings toward that parent and recognizing that Jesus wants us to forgive them. While remaining mired in the negative feelings may make us feel temporarily “right,” we’re actually only punishing ourselves. It Takes a Lifetime Our relationships with our biological birth father and […]
We all come into the world needing the tender presence of a mother’s touch, nurture, care, guidance, and love. In fact, the mother’s influence begins when we are in the womb. Questions That Only Our Mother Can Answer As with the father, our birth mother communicates profound answers to the questions that fulfill our innate […]
Re-Abandonment by Our Father The repeated experience of abandonment by our father who is still in our lives leads to greater and greater compulsiveness. We are determined to do whatever it takes to one day gain his approval and acceptance. I call this phenomenon “re-abandonment,” when the father moves in and out of the child’s […]
Equal and Opposite: Abandonment | Enmeshment In Greek mythology there is a centuries-old story of a young man named Oedipus. In the early 1900s, Sigmond Freud grabbed hold of this metaphorical example of an adolescent child’s relationship with his parents and referred to it as the “Oedipus Complex.” Not one for secular psychology, or Greek […]
Every human being is born with an inner longing to be united with our heavenly Father. This is called a “father hunger,” which exists at the deepest part of our human soul – the heart. To a child’s heart, their earthly, biological father is the most real and accurate representation of the only one who […]