Shaming Is Often Very Overt

I’ve devoted much of my recent writing to helping you understand the more subtle – even “unintentional” – ways that shaming occurs.  I would be remiss, though, to not commit space in my writings to address the more obvious forms of shaming.  I wrote my blogs for the person who has been overtly shamed through […]

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Shame’s Insidious Effects

Shame is internalized more than it is learned.  It evolves from a chronically unmet need, into a false belief, into an altered self-image.  This will develop in uniquely different ways in the lives of individuals who have been exposed to the very same environment.  For some, it may create internalized shame that is acted out […]

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Shame Robs Our Inborn Identity

I’m going to make the assumption that most people who are reading this have at least heard, if not studied, the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, recorded at the beginning of the Bible.  They enjoyed a wonderful, intimate connection with God.  That was until they made a choice. God extended […]

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Shame Has Two Sides

Allow me to share one of the most meaningful quotes I’ve ever heard: “We teach what we know, but we reproduce who we are.”  I teach this principle in my counseling practice nearly every day.  I’ve tried to engrain it into my adult children ever since the day I first heard it.  I strive to […]

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The Old Has Gone. The New Has Begun.

For centuries, mankind has tried to create an improved version of itself.  There seems to be a universal assumption that in order to find ultimate fulfillment in life, we must find a way to become “better.”  Self-help books are flying off the shelves like never before.  Researchers have discovered that the younger generations are far […]

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