Anger Anger is a defensive emotion that arises when we feel our boundaries and sense of rights have somehow been violated. Anger tends to arise when we are desperate to: Hold on to what we have. Validate who we are. Protect what we feel entitled to. Fight back when our sense of self-worth is threatened. […]
Introduction Many of us have reached a point where the emotional pain in our lives has driven us to seek help. At the beginning of this journey, we are often filled with so many negative emotions that we don’t even know where to begin. Like taking a medication for a headache, we are looking for […]
Abused? Or Abuser? Two people participate in acts of violation: a victim (the abused) and a perpetrator (the abuser). The Victim The person on the receiving end of abusive behaviors is the victim. The victim is prone to be captured by the message the actual abuse sends. Essentially, in being the recipient of an act […]
Through acts of violation committed against us. We experience shame when people sin against us. Through violations, abuse, molestation, or shameful words, shame is placed on us and cuts to the very core of our self-worth. Abuse occurs when someone enters an area of our lives without permission in a way that violates or hurts […]
We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others. We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ. In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important […]
We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others. We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ. In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important […]
Introduction God is in the business of making broken things whole. It is through the life of His spirit that we are brought back to wholeness. Nothing that has occurred in our past is allowed to have sovereign reign in our life when we summon the God of the universe for assistance. Those parts of […]
Soul Wounds Will Become Scars Parenting is hard work. If you’re a parent, you already know that. And sometimes parents get things wrong. Even very wrong. If we can recognize our father and mother for who they are, and not dwell on who we’d like them to be (past or present), we can move toward […]
Healing from our parent woundedness is a balance between acknowledging our negative feelings toward that parent and recognizing that Jesus wants us to forgive them. While remaining mired in the negative feelings may make us feel temporarily “right,” we’re actually only punishing ourselves. It Takes a Lifetime Our relationships with our biological birth father and […]
We all come into the world needing the tender presence of a mother’s touch, nurture, care, guidance, and love. In fact, the mother’s influence begins when we are in the womb. Questions That Only Our Mother Can Answer As with the father, our birth mother communicates profound answers to the questions that fulfill our innate […]