Does Toxic Shame Have An Opposite?

Common sense might say that if we just do the opposite of the shaming we witnessed in childhood it will produce a healthy life, marriage, children, and family.  The flaw in this reasoning is that, without of a person’s heart being regenerated through Christ, the opposite of shame-based is not self-worth, but rather pretentiousness (covering […]

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Shaming Is Often Very Overt

I’ve devoted much of my recent writing to helping you understand the more subtle – even “unintentional” – ways that shaming occurs.  I would be remiss, though, to not commit space in my writings to address the more obvious forms of shaming.  I wrote my blogs for the person who has been overtly shamed through […]

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Shame Robs Our Inborn Identity

I’m going to make the assumption that most people who are reading this have at least heard, if not studied, the story of Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden, recorded at the beginning of the Bible.  They enjoyed a wonderful, intimate connection with God.  That was until they made a choice. God extended […]

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God Is Bigger Than Your Discouragement

Fear and discouragement attack everybody.  They affect those who have public, visible roles in God’s work.  But they also affect those of us who have less prominent yet just as significant roles in the eyes of the Lord. Every Christian has a calling.  And fear of some sort wants to discourage us and interrupt that […]

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The Choleric Temperament Experiences Stress When Not In The Alpha Role

THIRD IN A SERIES OF SIX BLOG POSTINGS The uncertainties of life can cause every one of us to experience some degree of emotional strain and stress.  Aside from the basic, innate human responses to stress, each of the five inborn temperaments causes the individual to be predisposed to certain predictable tendencies in their emotional […]

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Anxiety: The Storm Within – Finding Shelter Through Learning to Trust God

If you’re struggling with anxiety, you certainly know how uncomfortable that can be. Anxiety is like a storm brewing inside of you. It can feel every bit as ominous, loud, and powerful as the wind, thunder, and lightning that accompany a Kentucky thunderstorm. Agitation, irritation, fear, negative thinking, and more—all mixing at once. You might […]

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Social Media Robs Us Of Healthy Authenticity, Belonging, And Community

ROOTS OF ANXIETY    1) Social media robs us of healthy authenticity, belonging, and community Constant engagement in the world of social media promises an escape from the reality of the challenging world in which we live.  Our culture has pandemicly bought into the illusion that online, virtual connection, conversation, and community will bring the […]

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