My Identity In Christ – Part 2

Who Am I, Really? Identity simply is a perspective of how we see ourselves.  We looked at this in great detail earlier in the book, but now I want us to personally wrestle with this question for ourselves: “Who am I, really?”  When we were covered in layers of shame, our identity was concealed, damaged, […]

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Building Healthy Boundaries

What to Do When Others Fail Us So, what happens when we fulfill our responsibilities to others, but they don’t fulfill theirs?  If we are the recipients of a violation, we can set boundaries to protect ourselves from the violation recurring.  But we can’t change the other person’s heart.  Rather than attempting to balance an […]

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Free To Be Accepted

Prayer for the Process of Grieving Our Childhood Father God, I am so prone to now wanting to feel pain that even the thought of grieving scares me. I realize there were things in my life that I lost.  Sometimes, I just couldn’t face it.  Other times, I resorted to anger and blame.  I may […]

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Identifying False Guilt

While we may have legitimate sin issues in our lives that Satan plays on, sometimes we experience false guilt.  False guilt is based entirely on a lie.  It tells us we are to blame for something that was not our fault or that we played no part in.  When we allow false guilt into our […]

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Overcoming Painful Emotions

It’s More Than Just “Getting Over It” Dealing with painful emotions can be the most difficult challenge we face in our healing journey.  Simply “getting over them” (as some may have told us to do) is difficult, if not impossible.  True Christ-centered healing begins with learning how to stabilize our emotions and submitting them to […]

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Healing Father And Mother Wounds

Healing from our parent woundedness is a balance between acknowledging our negative feelings toward that parent and recognizing that Jesus wants us to forgive them.  While remaining mired in the negative feelings may make us feel temporarily “right,” we’re actually only punishing ourselves. It Takes a Lifetime Our relationships with our biological birth father and […]

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How Fathers Often Miss It

Re-Abandonment by Our Father The repeated experience of abandonment by our father who is still in our lives leads to greater and greater compulsiveness.  We are determined to do whatever it takes to one day gain his approval and acceptance.  I call this phenomenon “re-abandonment,” when the father moves in and out of the child’s […]

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