Good communication

5 Life Languages (TM) – Introduction

Human beings of every tribe, tongue, and nation have found ways of communicating between themselves for centuries.  A quick internet search I did today showed that there are currently 7,139 languages spoken in the world, with English being the most common. Although we as human beings have mastered the art of speaking to one another, […]

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Foot washing modern day

The Five Temperament Model

Understanding temperament can be very complex.  I consider myself a trustworthy expert on this subject now, but when I was initially trying to wrap my mind around it, the information and concepts became almost overwhelming.  Don’t allow that to happen to you, ok?  We’re not studying for a PhD here.  Our objective is simply to […]

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Ripples from drop of water

We Duplicate Who We Are

Shame Through The Generations Walk with me as I explore the nature of each of the seven generations that co-exist in America today, and how each may have uniquely contributed to the dysfunctional aspects of our today’s culture:  The Greatest Generation > The Silent Generation > Baby Boomers (Early and Late) > Generation X > […]

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Correct lens changes perspective

Jesus Is The Only Accurate Lens

“Without complete honesty and vulnerability, unresolved shame can become a barrier to God turning our broken pieces into masterpieces.”  Dr. Dave Ralston  Toxic Shaming:  An American Icon I’ve had the wonderful opportunity to meet numerous high-profile people throughout my life – professional athletes, celebrities, dignitaries, and government leaders – Ronald Reagan, Jalen Rose, Michael W. […]

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1 Corinthians 10_13

Flee From Sin

1 Corinthians 10:13 (NIV): “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.  And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.  But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” We must look deeper into the […]

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All in the same boat

We’re All In The Same Boat

“All compulsivity is a consequence of unresolved toxic shame within us.”  John Bradshaw Adding to Our Own Shame I wish I had come up with this quote: “The definition of insanity is doing the very same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”  Why do we do that?  What is it within us […]

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Regret for doing what I don't want to do

I Do What I Do Not Want To Do

“All compulsivity is a consequence of unresolved toxic shame within us.” John Bradshaw I wish I had come up with this quote: “The definition of insanity is doing the very same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”  Why do we do that?  What is it within us humans that takes us back […]

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Multiple generations of family

The Sins Of Our Forefathers

Understanding toxic shame is not the primary objective of this book.  Although it may bring enormous relief, merely ridding our lives of collateral damage caused by toxic shame does not automatically lead to a godly outcome.  We must be even more intentional to fill the vacated spaces in our soul where toxic shame once dwelled, […]

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Classic Patterns Of Codependence

The “classic” codependency model has been well described by the organization Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc., and is referred to as “Recovery Patterns of Codependence.”  This organization has done an outstanding job of not only providing the important characteristics of codependency but organizing them into typical clusters in which they are most often observed. Denial Patterns Codependents […]

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