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Characteristics Of An Emotionally Intelligent Man


You’ve probably heard about emotional intelligence, right? It’s not about acing every test or being a whiz at trivia. Nope, it’s all about understanding and managing emotions – your own and others’. And guess what? It can make a huge difference in all parts of life. So, how do you spot emotional intelligence in a man? Look at their actions. Let’s dive into the 11 things guys do when they’re emotionally smart.

An Emotionally Intelligent Man Listens More Than He Talks

Ever had a conversation with someone who just won’t stop talking? It’s not fun, right?

Well, emotionally smart guys know that. They know the value of really listening to what others are saying.

But they don’t just listen with their ears. Nope, they listen with their eyes and heart too, picking up on all the little signs that show how someone is feeling.

This helps them understand people better and respond in the right way.

An Emotionally Intelligent Man Is Not Afraid Of His Feelings

Next on the list of characteristics of an emotionally intelligent man is all about feelings. You know, those tricky little things that can make us feel on top of the world one minute and down in the dumps the next.

Emotionally smart guys don’t run away from their feelings, even the tough ones. Instead, they face them head-on.

They’re not scared to be sad, angry, or worried because they know these feelings are natural and important.

They’re also good at figuring out why they’re feeling a certain way. And once they know that, they can start dealing with it.

An Emotionally Intelligent Man Knows How To Say “No”

I used to be a ‘yes’ man. I’d always agree to everything, whether it was a work project I didn’t have time for, or an outing I didn’t really want to go on.

I thought saying ‘yes’ made me a good person, but all it did was stress me out and make me feel overwhelmed.

Then, I met my friend Jake. Jake was different. He knew how to say ‘no’. Not in a rude or dismissive way, but in a respectful and honest one. If he couldn’t do something or didn’t want to, he’d simply say so.

I was amazed. Here was a guy who was setting boundaries and taking care of his own needs without being selfish or rude.

He was still liked and respected by everyone. That’s when I realized that being able to say ‘no’ is a sign of emotional intelligence.

If your guy can respectfully and confidently say ‘no’ when he needs to, then you can bet he’s emotionally smart. 

An Emotionally Intelligent Man Is Comfortable With Change

We all know that change is a part of life, right? But did you know that how we handle change can tell us a lot about our emotional intelligence?

Emotionally intelligent people are better at dealing with changes and uncertainties. They can adapt more quickly and manage their emotions during these times.

If your guy takes change in stride and doesn’t lose his cool when things don’t go as planned, you’ve got another sign of emotional smarts on your hands!

It’s not about never getting upset or stressed. It’s about how quickly and effectively they can bounce back and adapt when things shake up.

An Emotionally Intelligent Man Expresses Gratitude

It’s all about gratitude. You know, that warm feeling you get when you realize how lucky you are.

Emotionally smart guys not only feel gratitude, they express it. Whether it’s a simple ‘thank you’ to the barista who makes their coffee or a heartfelt note to a loved one just because, they’re not shy about sharing their appreciation.

Why is this so important?

Well, expressing gratitude isn’t just nice for the people around them. It’s also good for their own mental health. After all, being grateful can make us happier and less stressed.

If your guy isn’t shy about saying ‘thanks’, take note. It’s another sign of emotional intelligence – and a really beautiful one at that. 

In my next article, I will explore several more characteristics of an emotionally intelligent man.


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