How can you heal relationship wounds with Christian counseling?

 

You’re hurt and heartbroken, and your level of hope is depleting. Things were said between you and a loved one that seems unrepairable. Your spouse failed you, and the disappointment you carry in your heart feels unbearable. You want to seek help, and perhaps you’ve considered counseling and therapy. However, you don’t want to speak to someone that doesn’t share your same worldview on faith. Who do you turn to? What do you turn to? 

You turn to the word of God, and as you navigate scripture, you’ll come across bible verses that will encourage you in your toughest moments. Isaiah 41:10, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” 

However, what happens when you feel that scripture isn’t enough. You’re diving deeper into depression, and your emotional numbness persists. But you don’t want to talk to friends or family because you’re aware of what their responses will be. So, what do you do? Seek wise counsel in Christian therapy. 

Christian therapy isn’t the ultimate solution to your problems, but it will be the tool that God will use to help encounter the healing of your wounds. Why? Because the goal of Christian therapy goes beyond understanding physical, emotional, and psychological processes. It seeks to connect you to meditate on God’s word coupled with support in prayer. Ecclesiastes 4:10, “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

Think of Christian therapy as a form of discipleship where you are guided by your counselor, who will teach you how to approach your dilemmas with practical, faith-based approaches. 

Christian therapy honors God. Love is at the core of the gospel of Jesus Christ. Therefore, Christian therapists understand the importance of loving people but will help others understand that we are all flawed, and we all fall short. But at the core, scripture calls us to love one another despite our trespasses toward each other. And when we understand the roots of love, scripture points us toward mercy. 

Mercy and Healing. To have compassion is to forgive and Christian therapy will direct you to meditate on the importance of forgiveness according to scripture. It’s when we choose to forgive that we encounter freedom from resentment and bitterness. 

Three Enemies. Christian therapy understands that your problems have many layers. According to biblical scriptures, you have three enemies: the world, the flesh, and the enemy. The one enemy that you have to be most attentive to is your flesh, in other words, you. Your mind is the ultimate battlefield, and in Christian therapy, you will be provided with faith-based resources. Resources to help you identify which is the enemy or enemies you’re fighting amid your circumstance. If you can understand your enemy, it’s easier to know how to counterattack. Furthermore, healing is found in understanding the layers underneath your problems and their roots; you must know which enemy you are battling.

Heavenly joy. People are in desperate need of happiness. Many seek for short-term remedies to satiate deep-rooted pain while others seek thrills as their source for happiness. That’s the problem with society that they seek happiness, and happiness is related to extracting happiness from what is happening in the present. Christian therapy teaches us that true happiness is joy, but joy that is discovered in the Christian faith as peace. It’s peace that surpasses all understanding.

Philippians 4:7, “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 

In Philippians, we are being told that God’s peace is incomprehensible. It’s beyond human understanding. And it’s the kind of peace that acts as a shield that guards our heart and our mind. If God is an eternal being that extends peace onto us, then the peace that derives from him is grounded in eternal concepts. Such harmony is constant no matter the circumstances, therefore, this kind of peace holds power to restore and heal your inner wounds. 

Prayer. Prayer is the most essential aspect of living a Christian lifestyle therefore Christian therapy will encourage the development of a prayer life. Christian therapists are like guides that connect you to the ultimate healer of profound wounds. Wounds that penetrated your spirit can only be restored with that which is spiritual. It’s the Holy Spirit that transforms lives. 

Salvation. Christianity is the belief that God sent his son Jesus do redeem us from spending an eternity disconnected from God. Jesus is Lord and Savior of humanity, and this is where hope lies in that Jesus saves us from ourselves. Jesus is the ultimate healer, and faith-based therapy will lead you to find healing through belief in Jesus. 

When we are hurting and in pain, the one thing, we often lose sight of is hope. Christian therapy leads to the ultimate hope for restoration found in the Christian faith; belief in Jesus.