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Agape Love Is Jesus’ Love God intended for our lives to be immersed in agape love. The moment we were saved, or born again, the Holy Spirit indwelled us and we were connected with agape.  But for many of us, an experience of this type of love has never occurred.  Shame and past beliefs regarding…

God created us with an inherent need for love. It is even more important than the air we breathe and the food we eat.  Just as our physical body would eventually die without our physical needs being met, a lack of love will disrupt our ability to grow emotionally or spiritually.  The very reason for…

Introduction The definition of denial is: “Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something; typically motivated by self-protection.” The lies of our past blind us to things that really do exist, while at the same time causing us to see things that aren’t there. The most difficult thing about recovery is seeing things as…

As I’ve developed my own style of writing, teaching, and counseling through the decades, I’ve taken the liberty to integrate much of the very best of what I’ve learned throughout life and have attempted to present it in this book in a manner that is meaningful, practical, and life changing. One final concept I would…

A few weeks ago, when I was mindlessly surfing the internet just to pass some time, I ran across a very insightful article that seemed to shed light on the necessary uncomfortableness of our journey of growth. A great experiment in the desert called the “biodome” created a living environment for human, plant, and animal life….

I’ve sometimes felt that my journey of transformation has been like trying to turn the Titanic.  Very intentional.  Yet slow and methodical.  More than three decades in fact. The beauty of being transformed by Christ into the likeness of Christ is that it’s all about the journey.  There’s really not a destination – at least…

The renewing of our souls will extend no further than our honest acknowledgement of our inner brokenness. PART 4 IN A SERIES The Blind “Satan, who is the god of this world, has blinded the minds of those who don’t believe.  They are unable to see the glorious light of the good news.  They don’t…

In light of the foreboding cultural climate of the early 20th century that we’ve explored, we can’t help but consider factors that may have contributed to the nature of the world we live in today.  Natural characteristics such as creativity and vision were subdued by forced compliance.  Respect turned into fear.  Work ethic became drivenness. …

A landmark article by the US Department of Veterans Affairs National Center for PTSD explains how the emotional trauma World War II imposed on American men profoundly changed how they functioned as men, husbands, fathers, and citizens. “PTSD can make somebody hard to be with.  Living with someone who is easily startled, has nightmares, and…

As far back as the Mayflower Pilgrims landing on Plymouth Rock in 1620, woven into America’s DNA has been the cultural norm of utilizing shaming as a means of discipline, particularly in the disciple of children.  A methodology we in the 21st century have come to perceive as detrimental is what our predecessors considered to…