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I Thought I Was a Christian I can’t even begin to tell you the number of counseling clients I’ve met over the past decade or so who have sincerely said to me something like this: “I’ve always thought I was a Christian.  But, if I really am, why do I still struggle with so much…

Healthy, Godly Priorities Relationship Priorities In an identity dependent life, our relationship priorities got skewed.  We took upon ourselves the needs of others, based on our own compulsions, shame, and guilt.  We believed we needed to focus on others, more than on ourselves.  But these misplaced priorities led to numerous problems.  Rather than attempting to…

“Love the Lord with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.  And love your neighbor as yourself.  There is no greater commandment than these” (Mark 12:29-31 NIV). In His conversation with a Jewish leader, Jesus clarified the purpose of life on this earth. In this simple but clear statement,…

Through acts of violation committed against us. We experience shame when people sin against us.  Through violations, abuse, molestation, or shameful words, shame is placed on us and cuts to the very core of our self-worth.  Abuse occurs when someone enters an area of our lives without permission in a way that violates or hurts…

We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others.  We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ.  In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important…

Trusting in a God we cannot see requires faith (see Hebrews 11:1).  For most of us, people have let us down or hurt us.  Our ability to trust people in our earthly experience has been shattered.  How could we possibly trust in a God we can’t even see?  Yet, we can trust in God because…

Inner brokenness is demonstrated through the lives of human beings in an immeasurable number of ways.  In authoring each of our life stories individually, God is fully aware of the generational legacies passed down to us by our families, the complexities of our real-life experiences, and the uniqueness of our inborn, God-given temperament.  He alone…

What I had been feeling all those years was that my spirit person and my soul person were running on parallel tracks.  I knew many of the relevant Truths of the Bible.  But what I came to learn about God and Jesus and grace and forgiveness and hope just would not travel the eighteen inches…

For centuries, mankind has tried to create an improved version of itself.  There seems to be a universal assumption that in order to find ultimate fulfillment in life, we must find a way to become “better.”  Self-help books are flying off the shelves like never before.  Researchers have discovered that the younger generations are far…

THIRD IN A SERIES OF THREE BLOG POSTINGS The way you love others right now is a direct reflection of your current belief system regarding love. It also reflects your love of God.  God doesn’t require us to give out anything He hasn’t already provided to us. Therefore, you can only give out God’s agape…