A Husband Is Loyal
A recent survey found that 20% of married men have, or at some point will cheat on their wives. Further, men are 54% more likely to cheat than their wives.. I wish this general cultural statistic would only apply to men who are not Christians. A lot of Christian men still carry generational cycles of unfaithfulness from their ancestors which need to be broken in the name of Jesus Christ for them to be loyal.
“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
Matthew 5:28
Staying Faithful
You cannot alow flirting to happen
You cannot walk in purity if you don’t stop tolerating flirting from women and flirting with them, regardless th intentions. Where men are guilty most of the time is in tolerating flirtation at work, online, keeping dating profiles active, and texting people they have no business texting. Satan is out to destroy your marriage and everything starts with flirtation.
The grass is not greener on the other side
Don’t believe the lie that the grass is greener on the other side. I once heard it said, “The grass is greener where you water it.” If you don’t water your own marriage, you are responsible for the relationship being dry and parched with intimacy and connection withering. You can have a new marriage with the same spouse if you change your attitude and how you prioritize and treat them.
“Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares. Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers. May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Why, my son, be intoxicated with another man’s wife? Why embrace the bosom of a wayward woman? For your ways are in full view of the Lord, and he examines all your paths.”
Proverbs 5:15-21
Time alone with a woman is risky and sends a wrong message
Even if you are in a leadership role, your meeting with women can be in a public place or with another person in the room. The moment you start to spend time alone with the opposite sex as a married man, you are stepping on dangerous territory. It’s a slow fade from being alone with a woman and flirting to ultimately compromising the vows you’ve made to your wife.
Avoid talking about your personal life with a woman
Similarly, you must avoid the trap of beginning to open up emotionally with a woman other than your wife. In doing so, you are inviting them to be intimate with you emotionally. It might start slowly but this leads to other intimacies. This does not mean that you should constantly blocking out the women in your life, but your personal life should never be exposed to someone you don’t want to have a bond with. When you are struggling in your marriage, you don’t want to make bonds with other people, especially women.
A man can’t win the battle alone
The battle with lust, temptation, and sexual immorality is not one that a man can fight alone. Satan preys on a man when we he is isolated from the rest of the pack. To keep the enemy at bay, it’s important to have accountability at the spiritual, emotional, and physical aspects of a man’s life.
Find a Christian counselor who is further down the path of life and spiritual maturity than you, who also has a testimony of victory in overcoming sexual temptation and immorality in his own life.