Who Am I, Really? Identity simply is a perspective of how we see ourselves. We looked at this in great detail earlier in the book, but now I want us to personally wrestle with this question for ourselves: “Who am I, really?” When we were covered in layers of shame, our identity was concealed, damaged, […]
Prayer for the Process of Grieving Our Childhood Father God, I am so prone to now wanting to feel pain that even the thought of grieving scares me. I realize there were things in my life that I lost. Sometimes, I just couldn’t face it. Other times, I resorted to anger and blame. I may […]
When we gain access to the real power behind forgiveness, we discover it is the doorway to a new beginning, offering us the way to be set free from every issue of sin and shame in our lives. Only forgiveness gives us the opportunity to be emotionally and spiritually healed and made whole. It can […]
Rejection Being rejected by someone is perhaps the most painful things we can experience. Yet rejection is a reality of life. If we’ve experienced a painful childhood with a lot of rejection, facing rejection in adulthood can be that much more difficult. A root of rejection can cause much pain and lead to all sorts […]
We must learn we can’t judge ourselves in accordance with the standards of self or others. We need to judge ourselves by the standards of Christ. In 2 Corinthians 10:12 (NLT), Paul says this: “Oh, don’t worry; we wouldn’t dare say that we are as wonderful as these other men who tell you how important […]
Healing from our parent woundedness is a balance between acknowledging our negative feelings toward that parent and recognizing that Jesus wants us to forgive them. While remaining mired in the negative feelings may make us feel temporarily “right,” we’re actually only punishing ourselves. It Takes a Lifetime Our relationships with our biological birth father and […]
We all come into the world needing the tender presence of a mother’s touch, nurture, care, guidance, and love. In fact, the mother’s influence begins when we are in the womb. Questions That Only Our Mother Can Answer As with the father, our birth mother communicates profound answers to the questions that fulfill our innate […]
Within “dysfunctional” families, there are several roles that typically emerge. No one signs up for these. Individuals just move into them during the course of life in this family. And usually in an attempt to emotionally survive the toxic environment. These roles are generally not healthy, but are, in a sense, necessary for survival. Bradshaw […]
Most of us who are reading this book struggle with seeing ourselves negatively at a core level, whether or not we are even aware of it. While we may have trouble loving ourselves, we become exceedingly self-reliant. This is called “pride.” It is always self-centered, never God-centered. If we can be totally honest with ourselves, […]
As we look at the heart of God and discover He is filled with grace, love, and kindness toward us, it should move us to desire to love and serve Him more. Often this doesn’t happen because deep down, we are still blocked by faulty belief systems regarding our love. When our earthly experience has […]