Shame-Based Family Roles

Within “dysfunctional” families, there are several roles that typically emerge.   No one signs up for these. Individuals just move into them during the course of life in this family. And usually in an attempt to emotionally survive the toxic environment. These roles are generally not healthy, but are, in a sense, necessary for survival.  Bradshaw […]

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Self-Love versus Selfishness

Most of us who are reading this book struggle with seeing ourselves negatively at a core level, whether or not we are even aware of it.  While we may have trouble loving ourselves, we become exceedingly self-reliant.  This is called “pride.”  It is always self-centered, never God-centered. If we can be totally honest with ourselves, […]

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Faulty Love Systems

As we look at the heart of God and discover He is filled with grace, love, and kindness toward us, it should move us to desire to love and serve Him more.  Often this doesn’t happen because deep down, we are still blocked by faulty belief systems regarding our love.  When our earthly experience has […]

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Agape Love

Agape Love Is Jesus’ Love God intended for our lives to be immersed in agape love. The moment we were saved, or born again, the Holy Spirit indwelled us and we were connected with agape.  But for many of us, an experience of this type of love has never occurred.  Shame and past beliefs regarding […]

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Denial – Part 2

How Do I Identity Unmet Needs in My Life? Many times, our felt needs are far from actual needs.  We need the guidance of the Holy Spirit to show us the difference.  Let’s explore some of the areas where we are prone to experience wounding or brokenness caused by the neglect of legitimate needs: Genuine […]

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Denial – Part 1

Introduction The definition of denial is: “Refusal to admit the truth or reality of something; typically motivated by self-protection.” The lies of our past blind us to things that really do exist, while at the same time causing us to see things that aren’t there. The most difficult thing about recovery is seeing things as […]

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Inside-Out – Part 1

If we could look at my personal journey with Christ from a 30,000-foot view, we would see a handful of impactful moments when God moved my soul and spirit to a higher place.  Studying Inside Out was one of those times.  Come with me as I recapture some of the important elements from his teaching […]

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Beauty From Ashes – Part 3

The renewing of our souls will extend no further than our honest acknowledgement of our inner brokenness. PART 3 IN A SERIES The Imprisoned Most of us probably never put much thought into the difference between a captive and a prisoner.  A captive is held captive due to no fault or wrongdoing on their part, […]

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Beauty From Ashes – Part 2

The renewing of our souls will extend no further than our honest acknowledgement of our inner brokenness. PART 2 IN A SERIES The Poor Physical poverty has existed in varying degrees since the beginning of time.  There have always been those without food, water, shelter, clothing, and countless other needs. But as troubling as this […]

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