Surrender Your Attachment To Outcomes

Individuals who are healthy in soul and spirit have learned to surrender attachment to outcomes in their lives. Letting go of any needless attachments to particular outcomes and situations. Surrender means showing up in your life with the intention to be your best, and to do the best you know how, without expecting yourself to be “perfect” and life to be ideal. Have goals, have dreams, take purposeful action, and build solid relationships, but detach from what you think life must look like every step of the way.

A Few More Things We Often Struggle to Let Go Of

5. Let go of the fantasy that there is a perfect path

Too often we waste our time waiting for a path to appear, but it never does. Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. And we forget that there’s absolutely nothing about our present circumstances that prevents us from making progress again, one tiny step at a time.

6. Let go of the desire for quick and easy results

Everything gets a bit hard and uncomfortable when it’s time to change. That’s just a part of the growth process. Things will get better, one step at a time, one day at a time. And keep in mind that your effort is never wasted, even when it leads to disappointing results. For it always makes you stronger, more educated, and more experienced. So when the going gets tough, be patient and keep going. Just because you are struggling does not mean you are failing. Every great success requires some kind of worthy struggle to get there. Christian Counseling can provide a safe space for individuals to have someone walk through their struggles with them.

7. Let go of relationships that steal your joy and lose who you are

Let others take you as you are, or not at all. Speak your truth even if your voice shakes. By being yourself you put something beautiful into the world that was not there before.

Because it’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where someone else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space inside yourself where YOU used to be.

It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are than it is to keep them by being someone you’re not.

8. Let go of unfinished business from past relationships

You’re going to interact with a lot of people in your lifetime. Occasionally you’re going to meet a friend you think you will know forever, but then something will change and you two will go your separate ways. You’re going to explore different parts of your life with different people who aren’t in it for the long haul, and that isn’t a bad thing. Life is a series of stories, and the way our stories intersect is remarkable. Sometimes people are in our lives for the whole story. Sometimes they are just a short chapter or two. It takes a brave person to know when that chapter is over, and then to turn the page. Be brave. Embrace your goodbyes, because almost every “goodbye” you receive in life sets you up for the next “hello.”

I’ll finish this article in my next blog postings, so stay tuned.

[Portions of this article are excerpts used by permission from an online article by Angel Chernoff]